Things I Wish I'd Known...

Rencananya beli buku ini buat kasi temen yang lagi planning buat married, eh.. pas lagi iseng2 liat isinya, jadi ketagihan buat baca, haha.. BAGUSSS BANGEETTT!!! Very recommended!!! Baik buat yg lagi tunangan, lagi pacaran, bahkan buat yg masi single (seperti saya ini, haha..) ^^

Ga tau deh udah ada versi Indo-nya ato blom, but aku beli & baca yg versi Inggrisnya. Gary Chapman ini memang terkenal sbg penulis yg oke banget dlm ngebahas soal relationship. Buku dia yg paling terkenal judulnya "Five Love Languages" pasti uda pada pernah denger kan ya?

So, aku mo coba kutip beberapa point penting yg dia bahas dalam bukunya kali ini supaya bisa jadi berkat juga buat temen2...

"Things I Wish I'd Known
Before We Got Married"

• This is not a book on how to plan a wedding. This is a book on how to have a successful marriage.
• Many couples give far more attention to making plans for the wedding (acara, bridal, dress, foto, kue, dsb...) than making plans for marriage (menjaga hubungan, keluarga, keuangan, how to solve conflict, agama & kepercayaan, dll...).
• The wedding festivities last only a few hours, while the marriage, we hope, will last for a lifetime.
  
• Being "in love" is not enough to make a successful marriage.
• Romantic love has two stages (and how to make the transition) --> musti baca bukunya baru bisa ngerti ntar, panjang kalo dijelasin di sini, hehe..
• Most of us are far more like our parents than we realize (dibahas ttg hubungan kita with our parents saat ini, penting!)
  
• In marriage it is never "having my way". It is rather discovering "our" way.
• If you can't agree before marriage, what makes you think you will agree after marriage? (pertanyaan penting nih buat direnungin... hmm...)
• To marry simply because you are "in love" and to ignore the implications of the spiritual differences is a sign of immaturity --> this is one of my favorites! ;)
• It should be obvious that an Easter-Christmas Christian is very different from a daily "quiet time" Christian.
• A morning person will never become a night person, and a night person will never become a morning person. (Setuju!! hehe.. Fyi, I'm a night person.. lol)
• Intinya: Before you plan your wedding, plan your marriage!

Pokoknya bagus banget buat kita2 yang one day kepengen menikah, hehe.. Aku berdoa supaya kita bisa persiapin pernikahan kita dengan benar.. Mungkin ga bisa sempurna, tapi setidaknya kita berusaha yang terbaik buat calon pasangan kita and buat anak2 kita juga nantinya.. Aku percaya itu kerinduan Tuhan buat setiap kita, para singles.. Jaga hidup & persiapkan diri dari sekarang :)